Mrs.BasketCase

Where Mom unleashes the inner monologue.

My Promise To Your Daughters

on November 14, 2013

I don’t have a daughter.  I’m blessed with one boy and another due in a matter of weeks.  I’m OK with that.  Those of you that know me, know I’m not exactly a “girly girl”.  I wouldn’t know what to do if I had a daughter.  Josh would probably have to fix her hair because my only style is down or in a pony tail.  I played soccer, softball, basketball, and love all things hockey so we will suffice it to say that I’m probably better suited to having sons anyway.  That being said, I think we all need to come to an agreement as parents of the next generation.

One thing I can really appreciate about my mom was that she never pushed me to like certain types of people or date certain boys.  She never commented “Oh, he’s hot” or “He’s cute, Steph, why not go after him?”  She let me pick them out by myself and if she thought I liked a boy, she would ask what drew my attention to them instead of putting in her two cents.   Go Mom!  Why can’t more moms be like that?  Instead of pressing looks on our kids, we should be asking them why they like a particular person.  I generally went for the smart guys and am so grateful I did.  Smart is the new sexy, or at least it should be in my opinion.  My husband is a freaking genius, but he’s also kind, compassionate, loving, and one of the best dads I’ve ever seen in action.  I couldn’t ask for more.  If I had a daughter, I would want someone like my husband for her.

So here’s where my promise comes in, and I hope I get your promise in return for my sons.  I promise, as a mother of sons, to bring my boys up to the best of my abilities, to be the men they are capable of being.  I promise to attempt to instill values that I would wish for my daughter to marry into if I had one, values such as honesty, integrity, kindness, respect, and love.  I promise to try to raise them with a healthy respect of women and how to treat them, as well as healthy respect for themselves.  No man can respect a woman if he cannot respect himself as well.  The same goes for women.  I promise to shower my sons with love, so they can understand what it is to be loved and hopefully gain the ability to show their love in return.  I promise to ATTEMPT not to hover and involve myself in every tiny aspect of their lives, so that they may grow to learn their own path, learn from their mistakes, and learn to ask for help when they need it.  That also goes for when they are married, that I will try to sit back and let them be the adults they are and not drive my daughter-in-laws insane.  I promise to treat your daughters with respect and make sure my sons do the same.  I know my sons will make mistakes, as will your daughters.  I promise to keep an open mind and try to see things from both sides perspectives, and try to teach my sons the same.  So many more arguments would not happen, or would be solved, if people could try to see things from the eyes of others.  I promise to be the best mom to my boys that I can be and can only hope that this will help them in their years after they leave the nest.

The next generation bases a lot off the actions of ours.  Let’s try to provide some good examples for them.  Let’s quit pushing the value of looks on our kids, boys and girls alike.  Let’s value the important things and show it to them.  Love each other and look at yourself in the mirror, because some of what you see in there is going to show itself in your kids too.  A better tomorrow for our kids depends on us.  Just something to think about.  Stay classy!

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